Courtesy is the fourth “C.” This is the fourth post in a series about the 5 C’s of Good Relationships.
When we mention the fourth C to people they are often surprised. Courtesy, after all, doesn’t sound like such a big deal after chemistry, commonality and conflict. But make no mistake, there are dark times in any committed relationship when it is courtesy that gets you through. Relationship is a journey through a landscape, and sometimes there are periods of desert or of storm. There are times of terrible tension, anger, or disappointment when at 3 am in the morning we wonder how we will get through it. At times of great strain, when it is hard to remember that we love one another, courtesy is the path we can walk. Courtesy is the behavioral form of respect. If respect is the experience of valuing another person, courtesy is the expression of it. The dictionary defines courtesy as (dictionary.com):
1) excellence of manners or social conduct; polite behavior.
2) a courteous, respectful, or considerate act or expression.