I came across this Rumi poem yesterday and found it to be a sweet and challenging reminder of “right relationship”. Starting with myself, to become aware of how I am not a fixed, solid being, but rather a guest house to many visitors... Do I welcome and recognize them each as a visitor to MY guesthouse?
And if I do, how do I “entertain” them in right relationship rather than just closing the door in their face? Or worse, yelling at my partner/colleague/friend as if SHE is the guest! Am I willing to recognize a gift of awareness before I send them on?
By Marita Fridjhon
Note: This article was originally posted in 2013. Given the recent news on Immigration, republishing it seemed appropriate.
Both Faith and I travel a lot. And as seasoned road warriors, we have many tales to share–but in 2013 we experienced the most hair-raising experience in an airport to date. We left South Africa on a Friday morning flight; 4 connections using 3 different airlines stood between us and our home. The Johannesburg leg connected us to Germany via Lagos, Nigeria.
By Marita Fridjhon
Yesterday in our executive team meeting I was reminded of the well-known statement that “employees don’t quit jobs, they quit managers and office environments.” The research by brain scientists such as Daniel Pink and positivity in the workplace research by Losada, Heaphy and others, bear this out.
When we sat down for our meeting there was not only a high frustration level in the room but also fatigue… The server went down, the IT support group was slow on the uptake, pressing deadlines for proposals, marketing and other initiatives were stretched to the max by information not accessible on the recalcitrant server hard disk, to name only a few issues.
By Marita Fridjhon
Years ago Faith and I came up with this activity that really is helpful for clients who are in the trenches of change management. Is there anybody that is not currently managing change of some kind?
Last week we had the unique opportunity to work back-to-back with two organizations who, as organizational entities, respectively occupy the lands of Leapers and Tradition Holders. While we very often work with the roles of Leapers, Bridge builders and Tradition holders in teams, I have never had such a vivid experience of organizational entities occupying these roles.
By Marita Fridjhon
I came across something earlier today in a teaching by Pema Chödrön that really got my attention. In it she talks about “humans as transitional beings – beings who are neither fully caught nor fully free, but in the process of awakening.” I read this as I was preparing for a call with a partner and colleague in Egypt and I found it very helpful during that conversation.
As we shared stories of friends and colleagues with health challenges, as I listened to his account of the confusing, as well as very much “on the edge situation” currently in Egypt, I was aware of how, not only are we as human beings in the process of becoming, of evolving, so are cultures and countries and regimes and communities. Countries, like individuals, are neither doomed nor completely free. With every action, revolution, political process, countries are creating their future; just as every individual does.
By Marita Fridjhon
It happened in Heathrow airport in November of 2012. I had just landed in London, excited to meet friends and colleagues at the ICF Conference. I was walking fast, pulling my two bags behind me when somebody, rushing to their flight, cut directly in front of me and I went down, hard!
The journey from then until now, 9 months later, has taught me more about systemic interdependence than I ever knew before. Interdependence within my own body system, interdependence within the medical system and health care, interdependence between all of that and day-to-day living.
See, interdependence just IS. Whether we know about it, care about it or believe in it, it impacts our lives. Injure one knee, and the rest of the system is impacted. The other knee will need to take up some of the work load. When that happens the back and the rest of body automatically compensate for the redistributed workload. And when that happens over a prolonged period of time, overall mobility begins to suffer since certain muscle groups atrophy while others become overdeveloped and strained.
I won't ask you to accompany me on my whole rehabilitation journey. Just know that I am lucky to have access to a great medical care system that has been amazing in their patience with me. And, it would be useful to look at this experience to evaluate the non-local cost of a very localized event.
By Marita Fridjhon, CEO of CRR Global
A discussion on ORSC Global between our coaches stirred my excitement about this amazing phenomenon. I believe the ability to consciously work with Parallel Process is the ability to directly tap into a collective creativity and the wisdom of a larger intelligence. I also think there are creative leadership applications for this. Before I get ahead of myself, lets take some things apart and first look at the definition of parallel process.
Wikipedia states the following: "Parallel processing is the ability to carry out multiple operations or tasks simultaneously. The term is used in the contexts of both human cognition, particularly in the ability of the brain to simultaneously process incoming stimuli, and in parallel computing by machines." In my mind, this is not to be confused with mere multi-tasking. An example from the computing industry might provide better understanding.
Here it refers to an initiative where at least two micro processors handle separate parts of an overall task. When working with a complex problem, computer scientists divide the complex problem into component tasks. Each component task is then assigned to a dedicated processor. Each processor then solves its assigned part of the overall complex problem; parallel process. Finally, software then re-assembles the data to reach the final conclusion and resolution of the original complex problem. It is the high tech way of saying that it is easier to get the job done if you share the load!
While we indeed leverage parallel processing in best practices for task forces and other team efforts, there is another, messier way in which it shows up in human relationships that I believe to be a good mine for systemic transformation. It happens when we are in a parallel process without realizing it!
Years ago when Faith and I still did couples therapy we would from time to time choose to do individual work around specific issues with partners. Faith would work with one partner and I with the other for a session or two and then return to conjoint work. That's when we noticed a recurring phenomenon: by the time we got back to the joint sessions, Faith and I would invariably get into disagreements before the couple session - the content of which simply did not feel congruent with our own partnership.
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